NINE STEPS TO MORE EFFECTIVE PARENTING
Parenting is not a new concept yet it requires a lot of efficiencies. Raising kids is the toughest and challenging job in today’s world.
These NINE steps can help you to raise your kid in a better way:-
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Boosting your child’s Self Esteem
It
is a fact that kids start developing their sense of self at an early age
when they are babies. They see themselves through their parents’
eyes. They hear your voice and observe your body language and
expression. Thus your words and actions as a parent affect their
developing self-esteem.
Whether
big or small, all accomplishments must be praised, it will make them
feel proud. Letting kids do things independently will make them feel
capable and strong. Never ever belittle or compare a child. It will
make them feel worthless.
Avoid
making loaded statements. Choose your words carefully. Be
compassionate. Even if they make mistakes deal with them softly and
make them realize that you still love them.
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Appreciate your kids more for being good
Stop
criticizing your kids again and again. Try to compliment them more
often. The more effective approach is to catch kids doing something
right. Appreciate when they take care of their siblings. Encourage
them to do their work without help and award them. Praise them every
day. And award them with love and hugs. It’s a positive way to help
your kids grow with good behaviours.
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Set limits and be consistent with your discipline
Discipline
is a must at home. The goal of discipline is to help kids choose
acceptable behaviours and learn self-control. Kids develop
self-control when their limits are set by the parents. Some house
rules can be No TV until homework is done. Normally parents commit a
mistake by punishing kids if they fail to follow a rule.
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Make time for your kids
Due
to hectic schedule in office, many parents hardly get time to be a
part of a family meal. They miss quality time with their kids. Make a
time table of getting early so that you get enough time to eat
breakfast with your kids. Your children may be missing your presence
so they will enjoy each moment you spend with them. Create a special
night each week to spend the time. When your kids reach adolescents
they need undivided attention from their parents than younger kids.
Parents must be available to teenagers. Communicate with them more
often. Be a part of their concerts, games and other such activities.
Be friendly with your teenage kids.
- Be a role model to them
Young
kids observe their parents and try to follow them. It is necessary at
this point that parents must be a role model to them. Before you lash
out or blow your top in front of your child, think about this. Be
aware that you are constantly being watched by your kids. Behave in
front of your kids the way you want them to be. You must have
traits like respect, friendliness, honesty, kindness and tolerance.
Do things for other people without expecting a reward. Try to express
thanks and offer compliments. Treat your kids the way you expect
other people to treat you.
- Make communication a priority
Don’t
expect kids to do everything simply because you, as a parent, say
so. They need to be explained again and again. Kids if explained with
reasons will understand and learn in a non-judgemental way.
Expectations
are not wrong, but it must be clear. If there is a problem, describe
it, express your feelings and allow your child to work on a solution
with you. Don’t forget to make suggestions and offer enough
choices. Be open to your child’s suggestions. Remember dear parent, kids who participate in decisions are more motivated to carry them
out.
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Be flexible and adjustable while parenting
Sometimes
you may feel that you are let down by your child’s behaviour, that
maybe because you have unrealistic expectations. Kids environments
have an effect on their behaviour, so you might be able to change
that behaviour by changing the environment.
Try
to change your parenting style as your child changes. Chances are,
what works with your child now won’t work as well in a year or two.
It has been observed that teens tend to look less to their parents
and more to their peers for role models. But you as parents never
stop your duty. Continue to provide guidance, encouragement and
appropriate discipline while allowing your teen to earn more
independence. Try to grab every available moment to make a
connection.
- Show that your love is unconditional
You
are responsible for correcting and guiding your kids. But how you
express your corrective guidance makes all the difference in how a
child receives it.
If
you have to confront your child, avoid blaming or criticizing them,
else it will undermine self –esteem and can lead to resentment.
Instead, strive to nurture and encourage, even when disciplining
them. Doing so, make them feel that you still love them but your
expectations still persist.
- What you need and your limitations?
Sometimes
it is better to accept that you are an imperfect parent. Find out
the weakness in you and try to work on it. Try to have realistic
expectations for yourself, your spouse and your kids. You don’t
have to have all the answers- be forgiving of yourself.
You
can make parenting a manageable job. Focus on the areas that need the
most attention. Admit it when you’re burned out. Remember focusing
on your needs does not make you selfish. It simply means you care
about your own well-being, which is another important value to model
for your children.
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